Quotations
"Dana came into the room, she knelt down next to me and we made eye contact. I mouthed my first lucid words to her. “Maybe we should let me go.”
She said, “I’m only going to say this once. I will support whatever you want to do because this is your life. And your decision. But I want you to know that I'll be with you for the long haul, no matter what.”
Then she added the words that saved my life: 'you're still you. And I love you."
She said, “I’m only going to say this once. I will support whatever you want to do because this is your life. And your decision. But I want you to know that I'll be with you for the long haul, no matter what.”
Then she added the words that saved my life: 'you're still you. And I love you."
"I took care of him in many ways, but he took care of me in so many ways. I demanded almost as much of our relationship after his disability as before-basically telling him: 'You need to be my husband. I am there to support you; you need to support me.' I think it kept our relationship alive. Because if I had given up and said, 'Oh, you're sick. I'm not going to ever ask anything of you,' it would've belittled him. He was a willing and loving participant in our relationship, and he was an incredible husband because of that."
"Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other silence. It is hard to find. In its presence we can remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which to build a life. Silence is a place of great power and healing."